After my revelation last weekend, I’ve been consciously avoiding any internal arguments. I stop rehearsing conversations or imagining how I’d explain something to someone, as soon as I realize I’m doing it. I still do it a lot, but I’m doing it less than I was before.
The result? I focus on the task at hand much more often and much more deeply. I’m less distracted in general. I find I can focus myself more quickly, too.
And I seem to have a lot more time. Maybe I spent more time in internal dialogue than I realized.
The more I think about it, the more I feel that this has been highly beneficial. I don’t want to spend more of my life arguing, after all; I’d rather argue less. And even if I do come up with “the perfect
And there’s always the question of whether finding “the perfect
|Cantnever||Really a neat discovery. I’m 60 and newly learning that others seldom want my opinion or facts. They want a listening ear. Congrats Brent. You’re way ahead of me.|